Well, it’s 2023 and time for another Father’s Day. I’m not about to write a lot of sloppy and maudlin feelings about this day but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t have special meaning for me. My father and I had an up-and-down relationship for decades but once he accepted my independence and I accepted his role in my life, we became friends. It took 40 years and a triple bypass surgery for him and a whole lot of growing up by me. We had our difficulties and arguments and I miss not having them with him every day, not just on Father’s Day. I’m also a father and a stepfather and a grandfather with relationships with all of these people. The fact that I’m not much of a people-person makes its hard work for me but the end result is rewarding whether I want to admit it or not. With all of that in mind I thought I’d do what I always do and find opinions and thoughts of other people on the same subject and here they are.

• “It is much easier to become a father than to be one.” Kent Nerburn (1946)

• “What a father kept silent the son speaks out.” Frederick Nietzsche (1844-1900)

• “There must always be a struggle between father and son, while one aims at power and the other at independence.” Samuel Johnson 1790-1784

• “I learned as a youth that when I defended my rights by open rebellion my father relented, but when I remained meek and submissive, he only cursed and beat me the more.” Mao Tse-tung (1893-1976)

• “As long as I have been in the White House, I can’t help waking up at 5 AM and hearing the old man at the foot of the stairs calling and telling me to get out and milk the cows.” Harry S Truman (1884 to 1972)

As you can plainly see, everyone has a different approach to describing their relationship with their father. It’s always complicated and sometimes difficult but everybody seems to work out the problems eventually. It’s after those problems are resolved that a true and deep friendship can blossom. Here’s one of my favorite quotes on the subject by one of my favorite writers, Mark Twain (1835-1910).

“Always obey your parents, when they are present.”

HAPPY FATHERS DAY, POP!