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08-27-2013   Leave a comment

For as long as I can remember the “Battle of the Sexes” has raged on and on and on and on.  After living through the bra burning years and ERA I thought it might finally ease up a little but once again I was wrong.  With women’s salaries edging upward and their elevated management positions becoming the norm rather than the exception I’d hoped for the best.  I was wrong again.  Are you sensing a pattern here?  No matter what I do in any association with any woman, I’m immediately wrong (whether I am or not) strictly because I’m a man.

My interactions with women both in the workplace and my personal life have resulted in my hearing the same old complaints and worn out clichés.  “You men are all alike.” “It’s just like a man to do something like that.” “I can’t break through that glass ceiling because men discriminate against me.” “Men are unfair.”  Are you seeing a particular pattern here too?  Good, I hope you are.

The point I’m trying to make is that women have made a great deal of progress over the years but just can’t seem to acknowledge it.  They want more!  If they ruled the planet entirely they’d be upset that they aren’t ruling the entire universe and all those bad aliens out there are discriminating against them. 

To further make my point  I submit the following excerpt from the July 1943 issue of Transportation Magazine. This article was written for male supervisors of women in the workforce during World War II.  Read on ladies and see what having a double standard is really all about.

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Eleven Tips on Getting More Efficiency Out of Women Employees

There’s no longer any question whether transit companies should hire women for jobs formerly held by men. The draft and manpower shortage has settled that point. The important things now are to select the most efficient women available and how to use them to the best advantage. Here are eleven helpful tips on the subject from Western Properties:

1. Pick young married women. They usually have more of a sense of responsibility than their unmarried sisters, they’re less likely to be flirtatious, they need the work or they wouldn’t be doing it, they still have the pep and interest to work hard and to deal with the public efficiently.

2. When you have to use older women, try to get ones who have worked outside the home at some time in their lives. Older women who have never contacted the public have a hard time adapting themselves and are inclined to be cantankerous and fussy. It’s always well to impress upon older women the importance of friendliness and courtesy.

3. General experience indicates that "husky" girls – those who are just a little on the heavy side – are more even tempered and efficient than their underweight sisters.

4. Retain a physician to give each woman you hire a special physical examination – one covering female conditions. This step not only protects the property against the possibilities of lawsuit, but reveals whether the employee-to-be has any female weaknesses which would make her mentally or physically unfit for the job.

5. Stress at the outset the importance of time; the fact that a minute or two lost here and there makes serious inroads on schedules. Until this point is gotten across, service is likely to be slowed up.

6. Give the female employee a definite day-long schedule of duties so that they’ll keep busy without bothering the management for instructions every few minutes. Numerous properties say that women make excellent workers when they have their jobs cut out for them, but that they lack initiative in finding work themselves.

7. Whenever possible, let the inside employee change from one job to another at some time during the day. Women are inclined to be less nervous and happier with change.

8. Give every girl an adequate number of rest periods during the day. You have to make some allowances for feminine psychology. A girl has more confidence and is more efficient if she can keep her hair tidied, apply fresh lipstick and wash her hands several times a day.

9. Be tactful when issuing instructions or in making criticisms. Women are often sensitive; they can’t shrug off harsh words the way men do. Never ridicule a woman – it breaks her spirit and cuts off her efficiency.

10. Be reasonably considerate about using strong language around women. Even though a girl’s husband or father may swear vociferously, she’ll grow to dislike a place of business where she hears too much of this.

11. Get enough size variety in operator’s uniforms so that each girl can have a proper fit. This point can’t be stressed too much in keeping women happy.

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No ambitious person should ever just settle. Working hard and getting the job done still works whether your male or female.  I think it’s time to drop the blame game against all men and get back to work.  Just saying.

05-23-2013   Leave a comment

I’ve been around for what seems like forever and just through longevity alone I’ve become reasonably well versed in dealing with women in almost any circumstance.  Most men would agree, we’re tired of hearing about all the problems of women, girl power, ERA, PMS, men are bad, and women should run the world. BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! It’s time for me to pass on some of my knowledge  to the younger generations of men out there to assist them in surviving relationships with their current or future partners.  Let me help you “guys” make those “girls” out there a little crazy before they do it to you first.  This double standard against men needs to stop and I’m here to do my part in making that happen.  Sit back and learn from the master, grasshoppers.

  • Develop the ability where you seem to be calmly listening to their every word. If we as men insist on dating, marriage, and all that follows  we must be good listeners. Women want to be heard and over the years mine always were. I’m known for being a good listener, ask anyone. I may only hear every other word but that’s still listening, Right?  Look interested, nod a lot, and when they’re done just smile.
  • Develop the ability to "Zone Out". I seem to be there paying close attention to her every word but in fact my mind tends to wander to other places and other times. Certain of her key words or voice inflections will snap me right back to the current conversation without her noticing. They sometimes develop the ability to recognize when this is happening and that’s when they get really crazy.  Spend the extra time to learn to disguise this talent.
  • You must learn a number of different ways to check out other women without being obvious.  These are basic methods used by men for decades to hide their ogling.  Use reflections in windows to check someone out casually.  Wear very dark sunglasses so you can look at anyone at any time but without turning your head in their direction. As you should already know this has always been mandatory male eyewear on any beach for years.  Lastly, you must develop the ability to look at other women openly enough to make her crazy but not so obvious as to get you in real trouble. I usually use this move for revenge when she’s done something thoughtless and I want her to pay.  It’s worth it’s weight in gold if you learn it and use it properly.
  • Casually bring up memories of old girl friends or sexual partners. This will drive your woman over the edge especially if you can do it in an innocent manner.  If she thinks your doing it just to make her crazy you may reach a whole new level of OMG.  Use this ability with care, it can turn ugly and she may attempt to reverse it on you.  You have to be prepared to listen to  her experiences if your not really careful.
  • You must create in your mind a series of answers that you can draw upon instantly when you hear this question, What are you thinking? It’s been my experience that if more than a minute of silence occurs when you’re together that question will almost certainly be asked.  They want your every thought to be about them and it makes them crazy when they imagine that’s not the case.  Try blurting out, "I was just thinking of our first kiss." or "I was remembering the first time when we made love in the backseat of my old car."  The faster you are able to tell her these things the more believable and convincing they become.
  • Learn to use compliments to your fullest advantage.  Casual meaningless compliments that will send a chill up her spine.  Have you lost weight?  You really look sexy in that dress. When you walk like that you make me crazy. This can short circuit almost anything she is currently preaching to you about.  It can derail her train of thought just long enough for you to change the subject to something you deem important. Use them sparingly because overuse has it’s pitfalls.  If you have actual sincere compliments save them for times when sexual activity is eminent.  It’ll payoff big time.
  • Learn how to Fake Flirt. This is the ability to make it seem like other women are giving you the eye or being overly friendly.  This is simple to do but takes some practice.  If you’re ever feeling unloved or taken for granted this is the weapon of choice.  This skill develops over time but you must be subtle about it.  It will drive her completely nuts.
  • Make PMS your friend.  Most women deny every having PMS but they know when they’re suffering from it and use it against us at every turn.  It’s time to turn that around.  The better you treat her without ever mentioning the dreaded PMS the more guilty she’ll feel if she begins snapping at you for no reason.  She’ll never admit that’s the case but it’s true.  Make her crazy. It’s time we defuse the ever present PMS once and for all.

This is just a partial list of things we can defend ourselves with.  Women have apparently learned many of these same skills at a much earlier age than we first guessed.  It’s time for us to play catch up and level the playing field a little.  I’ll be sure to pass other things along to help make all of you out there the excellent lovers and partners your women are looking for. If it makes them a little crazier than usual that’s just a huge plus.