I hesitate to get into this subject since it’s not something I’ve ever been very good at.  I’d like to talk about texting in general and also about sexting in particular. To me they’re similar enough to discuss as one topic since both seem to be the "thing to do" these days.

I’m someone who lives for technology in most things and I work very hard to stay on top of the latest and greatest trends.  Some things like sexting and texting just never really appealed to  me because I’ve always been more of a hands-on kind of guy when it comes to the opposite sex. It’s my belief that if you want someone to respond sexually to you, you do it in person.  Why is it necessary to text at all?  Put me on speed dial and hit the damn button if you have something to say, especially if it’s something erotic.  Hearing the words spoken by someone who I desire is way more erotic than a text message that could be sent by damn near anyone.

I understand that texting and sexting are all the rage with many of the younger generation because it’s so much easier to say outrageous and erotic things on a computer. Young women can get as crazy as they want, say anything they want, and all too often send pictures and videos thinking it’s safe and won’t easily get distributed.  Sorry girls but just think about it.  You sext your heart out to someone you think you love and want to be with.  Two weeks later the magic has disappeared and he walks away after sending your photo’s, videos, and sext messages to all of his friends.  Nothing on the net can be totally controlled no matter how hard you try. You should never forget that, ever!

As I was recently surfing around the net I discovered a few sites giving advice on how to talk dirty with sexting. I won’t link to them from this blog but if your really that interested just look around a little, they’re everywhere. This first list is suggested sexts from men to women.

• "Passed the lingerie shop, and thought of you."
• "Are you wet in the right places?"
  "I need to feel you."
• "When I think of you, everything gets harder."
• "What are you wearing under your clothes."
• "Are you ready for some ecstasy?"
• "My hands feel empty without your breasts."
• "I want to be inside you."
• "You need a tongue bath."
• "Meet at the door naked."

Tell me ladies, do these really do anything for you?  I find them just a little lame and would be more than a little embarrassed sending them to anyone.  Now lets check out a few examples of some suggested sexts sent by women to men.

• “I’m imagining you all over my body.”
• “My clothes feel so uncomfortable right now, come and help me get out of them.”
• “I can’t stop thinking about what you’re going to do to me tonight.”
• “Does it make you hard to imagine me standing naked.”
• “I’m dying to please you tonight.”
• “I want you in my mouth.”
• “I’m so horny, do you want me to keep myself warm until I can see you.”
• “I want to stroke you all the way to heaven.”
• Does it turn you on knowing that I wrote this txt with one hand because my other is busy.”

I’m sorry but if these were sent to me by any woman I’d be a little amused but far from aroused.  A number of years ago when texting and sexting first arrived on the scene I met and dated a young lady who was truly addicted to sexting.  She drove me crazy with dozens of messages all day long and the harder I tried to tell her it wasn’t my thing the more persistent she became. I then told her that I was too cheap and  refused to spend my hard earned money just to receive unlimited sexts from anyone.  On our next date she gave me an unexpected gift, a new cell phone.  She demanded that I carry that cell phone which was set up for unlimited texts and that I respond to her sext messages with some good dirty talk of my own.  Shortly after that she sent me her first few nude photo’s which helped me to decide to break things off.  I returned her telephone unused and disappeared from her life.  Just not interested.

Here are a few additional stats I found interesting but a little scary. Our friends over at Harlequin Publishing ran a survey of their readers with the following troublesome results:

• 43% of women talk dirty through texts.
• Two-thirds of that 43% said they’d only send racy messages while in a serious relationship, while 35% only needed a few dates before they’re ready to start sexting.
• 27% of women admitted to sending nude pictures via email or text messages.

Well there you have it. It appears that this sort of interaction is here to stay in one form or another.  That doesn’t change anything for me though.  I’ll always prefer to hear my soulmate whispering softly to me on the telephone as she’s speeding home to be with me.

I wish all of you ladies the best of luck.  It’s a dangerous world out there so please be careful with what your sending onto the net.  I’m reasonably sure I’ll eventually be reading some of what you’ve sexted to your lovers if you continue putting it out there.  There’s one thing we all should know by now, once something is on the net it’s there forever.