Archive for the ‘honesty’ Tag

12/10/2022 “Self-Reflection”   Leave a comment

My post yesterday turned into something unexpected for me. I sat with my better-half last night and went through the fifteen questions. I had fairly reasonable answers for most of the questions and the discussion was fun and informative. I was surprised by some of her answers, and she was just as surprised about some of mine. One question in particular I had a difficult time answering because I had to give it some serious thought. The question was “What person do you admire most?” I finally came up with my answer later in the evening, the individual that I admired most was my maternal grandfather.

Most of my early life from ages five through twelve required me to spend a great deal of time with my grandfather and he was a great role model. He worked an absolutely horrible job for US Steel in a Pittsburgh area steel mill which eventually was responsible for his death. He spent more than thirty years being lowered into recently emptied hot steel molds. He had no safety equipment for the most part and was lowered into hundred plus degree molds on a bosun’s chair. He then used a grinder to clear slag from the mold so it could be reused. He worked hard his whole life, took care of his family, was brutally honest in his dealings with everyone, and he passed all of his work ethic and honesty directly to me. That’s a gift that I’ve been using for more than sixty-five years, and I wish he was still around so I could thank him for it.

Here’s a picture taken of him in the early 1940’s.

I certainly hope some of you take the time for some self-reflection and that these lists I’ll be posting over the next few months are the perfect tool to help get the conversations started. Not only will you get to know your partner or spouse better, but they will also get to know you as well.


11/17/2021 ✨Great Quote Award✨   Leave a comment

“Fame is a vapor, popularity an accident, riches take wings, those who cheer

today will curse tomorrow; only one thing endures – character.”

Horace Greeley (1811-1872)

11/06/2021 Andy Rooney Remembered   Leave a comment

It’s been ten years this month that Andy Rooney passed away. I’ve been thinking for a few days on exactly how I wanted to memorialize him. A standard review of his resume doesn’t do him justice. I wanted to thank him more than anything for the interesting insights he gave me while sitting and enjoying his essays.

I was never a big fan of 60 Minutes from the start because I felt at times they were dishonest and biased despite what they claimed. I can count on one hand how many of their shows I actually watched in their entirety. That being said, I tried never to miss an Andy Rooney segment if at all possible. He brought to the table many years of experience which helped make him special. His downright honesty was the first thing I noticed and appreciated. He spoke of things as he saw them and didn’t tolerate biases and prejudices and all the other crap the majority of journalists do. I’ve always felt that he, like Jerry Seinfeld, had that special view of things along with an excellent means of communicating them to millions of people with humor and honesty.

If the three of us were in a room together that was full of stacks of old books here’s what would happen. Seinfeld would write a 30 minute long TV episode about how people stacked books. I would attempt to explain how certain book stackers irritated me. Andy would take certain information from some of those books and weave a five-minute story that would make you laugh and capture your imagination at the same time. He had a knack!

I’ve missed him a lot over the years but I’ll never forget the pleasurable moments he gave me every Sunday night. Shalom and Aloha Andy and thanks again.


06-19-2015 Journal – Back to the Past!   Leave a comment


I’m spending this rainy morning in bed for at least another hour because watching old reruns of Sports Night has become part of my morning routine. It was a show I enjoyed watching back in 2000 even though I’m really not a  sports guy.  The show still holds up pretty well and the inane patter between the characters still makes me smile.

Have any of you noticed just how many of the old shows seem to be resurfacing on such a large number of channels.  It started two years ago for me when I stumbled upon reruns of Sgt. Preston of the Yukon.  I never missed that show as a kid and thoroughly enjoyed watching all of the episodes once again. Is it a little lame? Absolutely! Is it an easy and relaxing half hour? Absolutely! Then followed Gunsmoke, Bonanza, Roy Rogers, The Lone Ranger, Dragnet, One Adam 12, and a host of others. I began to wonder why it was happening so frequently.

Can it be that the networks are beginning to see a change in viewing habits? Is it possible that the ratings for these old shows are higher than those of the half hour long commercials that seem to be on every channel?  Is it more fun to spend a relaxing half hour watching a show where the good guys always win and the bad guys always lose? Can it be that people are sick to death of watching hour long shows about corrupt politicians, corrupt police officers, heroic serial killers like Dexter or pedophiles who aren’t responsible for their criminal behavior and blame everything on society? It’s a politically correct "No-No" watching those old shows where it’s celebrated to be patriotic, honest, religious, and a responsible citizen.

God forbid anyone should love their country and voice it out loud these days.  We wouldn’t want to piss off the media elite who decide what we should be watching and how to think. How can the Mainstream Media possibly maintain control of the masses and continue to dictate our politics, morals, and outlook on life when we’d rather watch Joe Friday or the Lone Ranger  doing the right thing no matter what. I think our kids would certainly benefit from a stream of positive role models, don’t you?

I find myself drawn to those simpler and more honest shows even though they aren’t up to speed with all of the politically correct crap we’re being fed these days. Maybe it’s time for the people of this country to once again hear some positive messages instead of the constant in-your-face drumbeat of commercials, reality shows, and just plain crap that’s filling the airways.

Find that cable channel that’s decided to step back and regain some simple and positive programming and support them. When their ratings begin to climb the advertising money will soon follow. More money begets more of the same type of programming and all of us and our kids are the winners.

11-03-2013 Kids & Proverbs   Leave a comment

As I’ve stated many times in the past I just love talking to kids.  The only thing you can be absolutely sure of in those conversations is receiving unedited answers which are what they perceive to be the truth.  They are almost always funny and and direct, an ability that most adults have lost due to decades of political correct indoctrination.  I try to enjoy conversing with kids before they age enough to become guarded, jaded, and uninteresting, much like their parents.

I’ve posted before with kid’s thoughts on Christmas, Love and Marriage, and other subjects.  The information contained in this post was collected by a first grade teacher who took a collection of well-known proverbs and split them into two parts. Each child in her class was supplied with the first half of a proverb, and then asked to complete it. Their insight as always makes me smile. Here we go.

Better to be safe than . . . . Punch a 5th grader.

Strike while the . . . . Bug is close.

It’s always darkest before . . . . Daylight Savings Time.

Never underestimate the power of . . . . Termites.

You can lead a horse to water but . . . .  how?

Don’t bite the hand that . . . . looks dirty.

No news is . . . . impossible.

A miss is as good as a . . . . Mr.

You can’t teach an old dog new . . . . math.

If you lie down with dogs, you . . . . stink in the morning.

Love all, trust . . . . me.

The pen is mightier than the . . . . pigs.

An idle mind is . . . . the best way to relax.

Where there’s smoke there’s . . . . Pollution.

Happy the bride who . . . . gets all the presents.

A penny saved is . . . . not much.

Two’s company, three’s . . . . the Musketeers.

Don’t put off till tomorrow what . . . . you put on to go to bed.

Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and . . . . you have to blow your nose.

None are so blind as . . . . Helen Keller.

Children should be seen and not . . . . spanked or grounded.

If at first you don’t succeed . . . . get new batteries.

You get out of something what you . . . . see pictured on the box.

When the blind leadeth the blind . . . . get out of the way.

It’s unfortunate that almost all of us lose the ability to be frank and honest as we age.  I spent a career trying to be frank and honest and I paid a heavy price for it at times.  I consistently attempted to follow my late father’s #1 rule. It’s nothing from the Bible or any other  religious organization, just a plain and simple statement to help set the course for my life.  ‘”ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING, REGARDLESS OF THE CONSEQUENCES”.  It’s not an easy thing to do because most people claim to want honesty from everyone until they get it, then  it can get ugly. Kids are pure and uncontaminated by the ugliness of the human condition and it does the heart good for those of us already contaminated  to remember those days.

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